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Alter Ego

Friendship can truly be a double edged sword. We have all had experiences that have shaped us in one way or another.  Some of that shaping has made us better for it; while it can cause others carry a chip on the shoulder remaining wounded and scarred.


It’s positive to take a step back and reflect the type of friend you are.  Our selfish self can get the better of us- if we aren’t careful- and an unhealthy trend can set in.

Have you ever known anyone with these traits -both share the negative and positive?

This friend wants 100% of your time or nothing.  They tend to be clingy, needy, demanding, and can be very jealous of other friendships.  This friend will disrupt a marriage if left unchecked to drive a wedge between husband and wife.  This friend is loyal to a fault and will be there at the drop of a hat.  Sometimes these friendships last forever while most don’t end well.  —    ALL OR NOTHING Friend

This friend you may not see or talk too regularly.  When you do catch up it’s like no time has passed.  You pick up right where you left off.  This friend has a life and understands you have a life.  This friend will not offend easily but will not be as readily accessible.  This friend will last the test of time – or slowly drift away if effort isn’t made.                     — PICK UP WHERE WE LEFT OFF Friend

Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

This friend only seems to know you when they need something.  They call or show up when your talents, time, or money is required.  This friend may seem thankful but sure isn’t very appreciative. You go through spells with no communication.  When they call your first thought is “Oh dear, what do they want now.”                                                           — ONLY WHEN THEY NEED YOU Friend

This friend is just the opposite from the needy friend.  She is one who checks in with you even if she’s not heard from you in a while. She might send you a random card, note, or text.  She’s never too far from your thoughts- she doesn’t need a reason to call. This person is very caring.  –CHECK ON YOU friend.

You know this person but you are not besties.  You have absolutely nothing against her.  When you see each other you speak and exchange pleasantries.  Maybe she was a more personal friendship that bloomed and failed- or it just never took off.  Most friendships fit into this category. Not a bad friendship to have.  –ACQUAINTANCE friend

It can take years to cultivate a friendship to last a lifetime with bumps or a wash out to create some binding history.  Other times friendship is almost instantaneous and you wonder how you survived without this person in your life.  Friends joined together by faith should have a glue that binds them like nothing else. While other friends would let petty life choices or preferences stand in the way of being close.  Some friendships come and go in a person’s lifetime with no pain or loss- some stand the test of time while others fizzle.

Some fun synonyms on friends I pulled from google are:   alter ego, ally, sister, brother, kindred spirit, bosom buddy, bosom friend, bud, amigo, homeboy, home girl, homie, dawg, gal pal, BF, BFF, & peeps.

Maybe you read each other’s looks.  Finish each other’s sentences and sandwiches.  In which case –  this is the wrong blog- that’s seesters stuff right there.

No matter which category you find yourself in or if you think this is an utterly stupid blog.  There is always room for improvement. We can always be a better friend to someone!

The golden rule is still golden, relevant, and worth its weight.

I’m preaching to the choir.  To be effective we might have to be bold and step out of our comfort zone a bit.  I like my bubble – as much as you- it’s quite comfy here.  But, again, If we are gonna make a difference in the lives around us- we have to reach out.  Once person at a time!

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.  (Matthew 7:12)


Even Warriors need friends,



2 thoughts on “Alter Ego

  1. I sincerely hope that I am a combination of several of these. Each “friend” brought individuals to mind. All play or have played an important part of my life. We learn from every influence – good or bad. I’m so glad to have the friends that I do – most are the “pick up where we left off” right now, but our seasons are different. I often wonder what my friends think of me – am I a good friend? I guess I need to do better and try harder. Thank you, once again, for the reminder!


    1. Karen, you are a very dear friend. You are most definitely a pick up where we left off friend and a very caring thoughtful friend. I can’t imagine life never knowing you or our other friend. 🙂


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